1/15/2005 10:31:59 PM|||Amy|||My father and I had a talk tonight about romantic relationships. From time to time, my father and I will stand around and talk and scratch our heads over my marriage to the tune of "why are things the way they are?" Tonight we did much the same thing, except this time I asked him for his perspective on why women sometimes can be so completely wrong about the men with whom they become involved.

My dad says that people tend to have agendas of their own and you can't always figure out what the agenda is without getting yourself in a whole mess of trouble, specifically marriage. My dad says that deep sea fishing and marriage are the same in that you don't know what you have, until you have it in the boat.

So, here I am on a Saturday night trying to figure all of this out. I am about 5 days away from being a single woman (hopefully) and I wouldn't want to be the victim of a nasty relationship ass biting when and if I ever get back into the dating thing again.

I'm telling you though - if dating is still as uncertain, precarious and downright hellish as I remember it or is typical of the scenario above, then I'm pretty sure that I am going to be pretty damn happy with being the single mother of 3 kids, no partner in sight.

My dad also told me some stories about the sweet, young, Baptist belt whores he dated in college. He says that of the two women he dated before my mother - one told him she loved him even though she was fucking the Catholic fraternity, and the other wanted to marry a rich, widowed doctor. I have no idea why this shocked me. I guess I hoped that people were really as repressed as they seemed in film back in those days.

Oh, and just in case you might ever think of trying this: apparently, gluing one's children to their beds with Elmer's doesn't work. I really should find something stronger.|||110585145705752220|||The Italicized Post1/16/2005 10:25:23 AM|||Anonymous|||I don't think said woman is desperate. I think she has a loving caring heart and can not see how other people could not.

I hate that stupid friend situation. Sometimes I have felt used but, I have learned and don't let that happen to me any more.

I wish you luck if you ever get back in the dating field. I will be doing that once my divorce is final also. I guess the one thing we have going for us is that we have learned a lot from the experience we have been through.1/16/2005 11:53:53 AM|||Anonymous|||Thank you on having a loving, caring heart. I sometimes wonder if trouble only leads to a sour, jaded heart, and then of course, there's the whole problem with feeling so overwhelmed sometimes that one's emotions get put on hold until a more "convenient" time.

I hope your divorce goes smoothly, and that you don't end up in a similar mess - in any respect.

Take care of yourself,
Amy1/16/2005 12:46:04 PM|||Anonymous|||I think you choose how that trouble affects you. Sure, even if you look at it as a learning experience and be positive it is gonna jade you a little which, is probably a good thing.

Putting on hold emotions might also be good. I did not do that and ended up getting burned again. I am thinking waiting from now on will be good but, you I will always try and take a chance at any opportunity.

Thanks on the divorce thing. Mine has been dragging on for a long time now. Thankfully we did not have kids. I can not imagine having to have that on top of everything.1/16/2005 02:17:18 PM|||Anonymous|||I am always really interested to know about the people who don't bother with relationships, the ones who don't feel a need to pair up with someone. Who is anyone to say that is a lonely way to live?

Divorce is a limbo state, but not necessarily a permanent one.

And so I agree, it's probably always a damn good idea to wait to start a new relationship until the old one is completely resolved - but, then, there's always the chance you can beat the odds and find someone closer to the right person at any time, even if the wrong person hasn't completely exited the stage yet.

Hopefully, this isn't overly optimistic.

Amy