Thanks to everyone for your condolences and well wishes. It's been very hard, that I won't deny, but reading your kind and gracious comments makes me glad for Internet friends. Thank you. I've thought about writing about it all, but the truth is, I am very sad, too sad to write about it. I've talked about it with a few friends and co-workers, and I've discovered that of those who have lost their mother or father, there is an amazing similarity. The hospital visits, the agonizing decisions that have to be made with regard to present and future care, the disagreements and misunderstandings among family members, the feeling of loss, of being rudderless. The actual moment when you lose someone. Nothing you can do to change it, take it back, start over.